How to Write Wedding Vows That Speak Straight From the Heart

If you’re planning your wedding and wondering how to write wedding vows that don’t sound like something from a rom-com or that leave you feeling like a nervous wreck—you’re not alone. As a celebrant who’s guided many couples through the stages of vow writing, I can tell you this: your vows matter. They are the emotional centrepiece of your ceremony, the secret ingredient that makes your day uniquely yours.

Why Vows Matter

Wedding vows are more than a tradition. They’re your promises to one another, spoken aloud for the first time in front of the people who matter most to you. They define what marriage means to you as a couple. A well-crafted vow is more than beautiful words—it’s a deeply personal declaration that leaves a lasting impression on everyone present. In fact, personalised vows are often what couples and guests remember most from the day.

Tips Couples Can Use Right Now

If you’re staring at a blank page, start here:

• Reflect first, write second. Think about your relationship’s defining moments. What makes your partner irreplaceable?
• Start small. A great vow doesn’t need to be long. Aim for 1-2 minutes. Quality beats quantity.
• Mix heart and humour. Don’t be afraid to laugh a little. The best vows balance emotion with personality.
• Make real promises. Include heartfelt commitments that matter in everyday life.
• Practice aloud. Hearing your words helps them land more naturally.

These tips are part of the personalised vow-writing support I offer every couple who books me. Let’s face it: writing vows is intimate, but you shouldn’t have to do it alone.

This Is What Personal Vows Sound Like

Not all vows start with “I promise to love you forever.” Here are a few real examples (shared with permission):

• “I promise to always dance in the kitchen with you, even when the music is off.”
• “You are my calm in the chaos, my best friend, my greatest adventure.”
• “I vow to be your teammate, your safe space, and your loudest cheerleader.”

When couples take the time to craft their own vows, the ceremony transforms. It stops being just an event and becomes a story. Your story.

The Secret to a Personalised Ceremony

You can have the flowers, the dress, the music. But when you speak your vows from your heart your ceremony transforms into something unforgettable. As a celebrant, I help my couples dig deep into their love story. Whether through one-on-one advice, a dedicated workshop, or collaborative vow editing, I make sure your words feel true, balanced, and beautiful.

Writing doesn’t come easily to everyone—and that’s okay. I’m here to make the process fun, manageable, and even a little magical. By booking me as your celebrant, you get all the time, tools, and support you need to make your vows truly fabulous.

How to write wedding vows that are unforgettable

If you’d like your wedding ceremony to reflect who you truly are as a couple, it starts with the vows. Let’s make them count. Get in touch today to learn more about how I can help you write from the heart. You’ll find the link to my contact page here and, if you’re ready to book a chat, my calendar link is here! I’m looking forward to meeting you and hearing all about your plans so far! If you’d like to get your hands on my vow writing guide then drop me a DM on my instagram page and I’ll send it over to you!

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Maddie and Dan’s photos: Heather Jackson Photography